While it is important that you hire the best divorce attorney for yourself, it is also important that your soon-to-be ex not be able to hire either the best divorce attorney or a pitbull,  before you have a chance to. This is going to cost you some money, but it will be money well-spent.

Find out who the top five attorneys are in your city who have a reputation for making a divorce a nightmare for the opposing spouse.  You will not want your husband to be able to hire one of them.  You need to make an appointment with each of them—being careful how you pay for the consultation so you don’t alert your husband that you are contemplating a divorce. Give each attorney as much information about your case as possible. By giving each attorney all the details about you and your marriage, you are creating an attorney-client relationship—so that he will be prohibited from representing your husband, even if you don’t hire him. This is called “conflicting out an attorney.”