When your husband says he must work late every night for months — an affair is likely.  What your mind blots out, your heart knows — and so does everyone else.  In other words, when you’re in denial, you’re only kidding yourself.  Take off the blinders.

A funny book on divorce (yes, it’s possible) is Heartburn by Nora Ephron, author of  Sleepless in Seattle and When Harry Met Sally.

I just read about a mobile tracking service that allows users to monitor someone’s location using the G.P.S. software on their cellphones. But you can also pay for a service to use a fake location as a decoy so a person doesn’t know where you are.

The minute you make the decision to go to court and have a judge make the decisions in your divorce, you give up nearly all your control over the process.  If you want to keep your money instead of giving it to an attorney, and if you want to maintain control over your life, do [...]