It is always assumed that people cheat with someone better looking than their current partner. This may not actually be true, according to survey by Victoria Milan, a dating site for married people looking to have an affair. The website polled over 4,000 of their members and found that most people using the site consider their significant others to be more attractive than their affair partners.

Interestingly, the men polled said they consider their significant others superior to their affair partners in other ways as well. Only 30 percent of men cheated with women younger than their current partners, and only a quarter of the men found their mistresses more interesting or more in shape than their partners.

So why cheat at all? Men admitted that they found their mistresses to be more passionate, better listeners and more caring than their significant others.

Over half of the females polled also found their significant others to be more attractive than their affair partners, but 50 percent said their lovers were in better shape. Similar to the men polled, women reported that the person they were having an affair with listen better and are more passionate than their man at home. And a whopping 89.6 percent of the women indicated that the man they’re cheating with makes them feel more appreciated than their significant other.

Some reasons men cheat are that they no longer find their spouse attractive, boredom, a need to escape, and they couldn’t resist the other woman. Same goes for women who cheat. Infidelity is usually more a symptom of bigger issues.