Life After Divorce

You have just gotten divorced and half or more of your assets are gone…  Living alone after your divorce may be difficult—especially if you had a long marriage—financially and emotionally.  Most women can expect to spend at least a third of their adult lives on their own. Because of this, they must get savvy about saving […]

Cheating Heart

What do you do if you discover that your partner has cheated on you?  Before you do anything, you have to figure out the extent of the infidelity.  Not all cheating is created equal (not that it is any less painful). Was the affair sexual or emotional? Was it a one-night stand or a long-term affair […]

Changing Your Name After Divorce

Changing your name after a divorce is always an option.  But changing your name should not be an impulsive decision, nor should any important decision made right after your divorce. In most states you can request that the judge handling your divorce make a formal order restoring your former or birth name.  If your divorce decree contains […]

Therapy And Divorce

Think twice about going to therapy, either by yourself or with your spouse. There is an old saying, “Usually a psychiatrist needs a psychiatrist more than his or her patients.” In the context of a custody dispute, everything you say, or have said, to your therapist can be disclosed and used against you. The client-patient […]

Credit After Divorce

Every woman should be establishing her OWN credit from the day she gets married—if not before.  You should have at least two credit cards—an American Express and a bank Visa or Mastercard that are in your name only—no way linked to your husband.  You should also have at least one or two department store credit […]

Cheaters and Infidelity

Do men really cheat on their spouses more than women do—or do they just get caught more often?  Men have always been the ones who are tagged as the “cheaters”—but today the genders are almost equally unfaithful—23% for men and 19% for women according to a professor of family relations at a University in Ontario. The […]

Single in Manhattan

Young women come to Manhattan looking for a Carrie Bradshaw “Sex and the City” experience and to find a husband.  Unfortunately, being single in New York City is “the kiss of death.”  According to a recent study, 78 percent of 20 year-olds are females. There are so few eligible guys around—it’s like a candy store for men.  To make […]

The Divorce Stigma

Even though over half of the marriages in the United States end in divorce, there is still a negative stigma for those who are divorced.  You are not just” single”—but “divorced.”  When you fill out medical forms, for example, there is a place to check for married, single or divorced.  Why?  Being divorced is the same as being single—or […]