Breakups can be brutal—especially if it is a divorce. Some people are able to bounce back right away and others sometimes can take years to heal and move on. New research reveals that it’s not optimism that pulls us through—it’s self-compassion. Divorcees recover more quickly when they avoid being self-critical and recognize that they are not […]
What do you do if you discover that your partner has cheated on you? Before you do anything, you have to figure out the extent of the infidelity. Not all cheating is created equal (not that it is any less painful). Was the affair sexual or emotional? Was it a one-night stand or a long-term affair […]
There is nothing more terrible than a contentious divorce. It is emotionally and financially devastating. Usually the only real beneficiaries are the attorneys, who drag things out and, by baiting their clients against each other, inflame an already tragic and sad situation. They are the only real winners! Try not to get caught up in a contentious divorce. […]
Changing your name after a divorce is always an option. But changing your name should not be an impulsive decision, nor should any important decision made right after your divorce. In most states you can request that the judge handling your divorce make a formal order restoring your former or birth name. If your divorce decree contains […]
Think twice about going to therapy, either by yourself or with your spouse. There is an old saying, “Usually a psychiatrist needs a psychiatrist more than his or her patients.” In the context of a custody dispute, everything you say, or have said, to your therapist can be disclosed and used against you. The client-patient […]
Every woman should be establishing her OWN credit from the day she gets married—if not before. You should have at least two credit cards—an American Express and a bank Visa or Mastercard that are in your name only—no way linked to your husband. You should also have at least one or two department store credit […]