Therapy And Divorce

Think twice about going to therapy, either by yourself or with your spouse. There is an old saying, “Usually a psychiatrist needs a psychiatrist more than his or her patients.” In the context of a custody dispute, everything you say, or have said, to your therapist can be disclosed and used against you. The client-patient […]

Credit After Divorce

Every woman should be establishing her OWN credit from the day she gets married—if not before.  You should have at least two credit cards—an American Express and a bank Visa or Mastercard that are in your name only—no way linked to your husband.  You should also have at least one or two department store credit […]

Cheaters and Infidelity

Do men really cheat on their spouses more than women do—or do they just get caught more often?  Men have always been the ones who are tagged as the “cheaters”—but today the genders are almost equally unfaithful—23% for men and 19% for women according to a professor of family relations at a University in Ontario. The […]

Being Single

“Singles” don’t count in today’s society.  Being single in a married world is not easy.  Policies favor couples, but single people tend to offer more to society.  Social scientists and researchers say the plight of the American single person is cause for growing concern. According to the Census Bureau, about 100 million Americans, nearly half of […]

The Divorce Stigma

Even though over half of the marriages in the United States end in divorce, there is still a negative stigma for those who are divorced.  You are not just” single”—but “divorced.”  When you fill out medical forms, for example, there is a place to check for married, single or divorced.  Why?  Being divorced is the same as being single—or […]

Sometimes Life Throws You a Curve Ball

Something happens that you never expected—sometimes life throws you a curve ball. You think that you are happily married and your sex life is great, and then you find out your spouse is having an affair—or he (or she) asks you for a divorce because he’s in love with someone else.  You feel like you’ve been […]

Domestic Violence

Too often society blames victims of domestic violence for not leaving, rather than holding the abusers responsible.  The reality is that financial dependency, concern for the children, and the fear of being pursued or even killed, can make the idea of escape seem impossible. No one deserves to be abused. Everyone should have someone to […]

Formula for Alimony

Family Court judges have needed a formula to avoid unfair settlements, because the amounts and payment schedules are usually decided by them. Judges are on their own in deciding how to prioritize the various factors and how to translate them into dollar amounts—resulting in wildly inconsistent alimony awards. The unpredictability of alimony rules imposes unnecessary costs.  […]