Asia’s Gendercide

Across continents, cultures, and centuries, prospective parents have always preferred boys to girls.  Nature agrees because the ratio of live births is usually 105 boys to every 100 girls, because boys have higher rates of infant mortality, engage in high-risk behavior and die sooner.  By age 30 there are equal numbers of males and females […]

Divorce On Hold

The recession has encouraged marriages to improvise, because they have no choice.  Since the financial collapse in 2008 many semi-happy, but not totally miserable, couples have stayed together because they can’t afford to get divorced.  Or they can’t sell their homes or would lose too much money if they did.  So they continue to live together, […]

The Future of Marriage

Is there a future in marriage?  A Pew poll in 2010 found that a whopping 50% of young Americans, and 40% of all Americans, believe that marriage is becoming obsolete. There are others who want to revive the “traditional” marriage, get rid of no-fault divorce laws and change the attitudes about marriage. It is interesting that at […]

Married Couples

The Census Bureau has reported that in 2010 only 48 percent of American households were represented by married couples.  This is the first time that figure has dropped below 50 percent.  This is down from 78 percent in 1950—the days of “Ozzie and Harriet” are gone.  Just a fifth of households were traditional families—married couples […]

A Happy Marriage

This is advice to anyone planning to get married:  Make sure that the person you are getting married to has the traits you are looking for in a partner.  Don’t get married thinking that he or she will grow into being that ideal partner.  It usually doesn’t happen. People don’t change, and you can’t change […]

First Marriage

According to a recent report in 2011 by the Census Bureau, nearly half of all women between the ages of 25 and 29 have never been married.  The report highlighted the shifting patterns of marriage and divorce since the 1940′s. Among the changes found in the research is the rising median age of first marriages.  The […]

Wedding Vows

Today many people write their own wedding vows.  Love and  cherish or honor should be part of your wedding vows—but not  OBEY (in the past “love, cherish or honor and obey” were part of the vows).  Only women were  the ones whose vows included “obey.” No woman should have to “obey” her husband.  Kate Middleton as well as […]

Marriage is a Business

You should treat your marriage like a business—a financial partnership.  Couples who support each other through open communication seem to have a stronger relationship, especially when it comes to their money.  Both of you should be part of any financial decisions—and being part of the decision-making will strengthen your marriage. Communication, mutual respect and monetary […]