Bisexual Men

On August 25, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Advice, Marriage, Sex, by leslye

It was probably not a surprise to bisexual men, who have long asserted that being attracted to both the opposite sex and the same sex is normal, when a new study came out confirming this. Researchers at Northwestern University did a study which was published online in the journal “Biological Psychology.”  They relied on strigent criteria [...]

A Little Divorce Gossip

On August 18, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Gossip, Marriage, by leslye

Jane Wenner finally filed for divorce in June from her husband Jann Wenner, who is the owner of Rolling Stone and Us Weekly.  The Wenner’s have lived separately since 1995 when Jann left Jane and moved in with his gay lover, former Calvin Klein model Matthew Nye.  The money to start Rolling Stone came from [...]

Sometimes Life Throws You a Curve Ball

On August 16, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Advice, Divorce/Financial, Prepare for Divorce, by leslye

Something happens that you never expected—sometimes life throws you a curve ball. You think that you are happily married and your sex life is great, and then you find out your spouse is having an affair—or he (or she) asks you for a divorce because he’s in love with someone else.  You feel like you’ve been [...]

Domestic Violence

On August 12, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Advice, Divorce War Stories, by leslye

Too often society blames victims of domestic violence for not leaving, rather than holding the abusers responsible.  The reality is that financial dependency, concern for the children, and the fear of being pursued or even killed, can make the idea of escape seem impossible. No one deserves to be abused. Everyone should have someone to [...]

Deadbeat Husband

On July 10, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Advice, Divorce War Stories, by leslye

On February 9, 2011 Congressman Steve Cohen from Tennessee reintroduced Jane’s Law, a bipartisan measure that was crafted to close a legal loophole that enables people to avoid paying court-orderd property distributions by crossing state lines. The measure was named after Jane Maharam, who has been fighting since 1983 to force her ex-husband to return her [...]

Senior Marriage

On June 22, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Advice, Marriage, by leslye

Romance is wonderful, especially for a “senior”—but marriage has to be thought out carefully. The financial implications are the most important thing to consider.  Living together without getting married may make the most sense. But if marriage is what you want, you have to have serious financial discussions before you take the step.  Proof of your income, [...]

Divorce On Hold

On June 6, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Advice, by leslye

The recession has encouraged marriages to improvise, because they have no choice.  Since the financial collapse in 2008 many semi-happy, but not totally miserable, couples have stayed together because they can’t afford to get divorced.  Or they can’t sell their homes or would lose too much money if they did.  So they continue to live together, [...]

Marriage Counseling Doesn’t Work

On May 16, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Advice, Marriage, by leslye

Why doesn’t marriage counseling work?  Because most couples go for marriage counseling when it’s too late to save their marriages.  Most marriage counselers are the kiss of death for a  marriage.  The  reason  that  marriage counseling doesn’t work is because couples therapy is the hardest form of therapy, and most therapists aren’t trained to do it.  Surveys indicate [...]