Lying or Self-Deception

People very often say things that aren’t true. It’s not exactly lying but more like self-deception.  A good example is, “I am a private person—I would never reveal such and such because I’m a private person.” Anyone who says that is probably not a private person. Truly private people do not have to declare it.  […]

Getting Rid of the Bling

One of the first things some women want to do when they have gone through a terrible divorce is get rid of everything their ex-husband had given them—particularly jewelry.  Elin Nordegren reportedly got rid of any signs of her ex-husband, serial cheater Tiger Woods, including the jewelry he gave her. I would suggest that you […]

Web Self-Defense

The Internet is the world’s bazaar, delivering virtually anything you want—you never need to leave home!  But the Web is full of crooks who are happy to take your money if you give them the chance. Be suspicious of  “free trials.”  When you give your credit card or debit card number to cover shipping and handling […]

Protect Yourself Against Fraud

Credit card companies say that simple defensive measures can protect you from fraud.  Some are:  shredding new credit card offers and old credit card statements. Not leaving your payment envelope stuck on the mailbox. Other things you should do: —Make sure your credit card company has your phone number so if a suspicious charge appears […]

Ugly Divorce vs. Good Divorce

On February 28, 2011, in Blog, Divorce, Divorce Advice, Divorce Information, Prepare for Divorce, by leslye

“Why Divorces Get Ugly and How to Have a Good One” — Some advice if you are considering divorce: If you’re unhappy, go to your spouse and tell them what’s wrong. Be completely honest. Communicate to your spouse and figure out if the two of you want to make an effort to save the marriage or not. […]

Fairy Tale for Women of the 21st Century

Once upon a time, in a land far away, a beautiful, independent, self-assured princess happened upon a frog as she sat contemplating ecological issues on the shores of an unpolluted pond in a verdant meadow near her castle.  The frog hopped into the princess’  lap and said, “Elegant Lady, I was once a handsome prince, […]

Firing Your Attorney

If you decide you are unhappy with your attorney, you should advise him/her of your feelings in writing.  If it becomes clear that you cannot work with your attorney, then you should not be afraid to fire him/her. It is best to make the decision early on. Otherwise, not only will you be switching attorneys during […]

Your Attorney

The best way to work with your attorney is to empower yourself by understanding the divorce process in your state.  Don’t ever assume that your attorney will take care of everything.  Not only are you the boss when you hire an attorney, but you are the one who has the most to gain or lose.  […]